Where to begin? It’s hard to believe that we’re entering another decade already. – They say time flies, but if we’re being honest I barely remember Y2K, so in reality this is only the second turning of a decade that I can truly recall. Not that I remember 2010 very much, but to put things in perspective, Her and I had only been dating for 6 months at the turn of the last decade… now we’ve been married for 8.5 years, or what feels like a lifetime.

A decade ago this blog didn’t exist. Granted it came to life only 8 months into the decade, which means that in less than 8 months it will be 10 years old… (that’s something insane to think about… because it’s been around almost as long Her and I have been together 😳) – I wish I could have given this blog the attention it deserved for the second half of the decade, but I was living life, and I don’t regret that part at all.

How do I possibly write a recap for the past decade? This is and will most likely be the best decade of my life. I grew more this decade than I can see myself ever growing again. I turned 19 the first year of the decade, and 28 during the last year. I learned more about who I was, made more mistakes than I care to count, and loved deeper than I thought was possible, while also hurting more than I’ve ever imagined I could…

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Amazingly, I have kept the tabs in Firefox with my Tumblr blog and this site open since the last time I wrote. And yet, here it is June 29 and I haven’t written once in 2019. Why? Because I’ve been too busy could easily roll off the tongue, but I’ve learned that we have time for what we Make time for. It’s not that I don’t want to write, because that’s certainly not the case. I think it has more to do with the fact that I have so much going in my life that I am barely staying afloat. Taking time to write here, when I could be spending that time working on my relationship with Her seems… counterproductive, somehow. I know it’s not, though. Writing here has always been and will always be therapeutic for me. It’s the one place I can go and pour my raw soul out and evaluate the way that I feel, somehow, objectively. It’s funny because it’s not objective at all… but it does feel that way nonetheless.

So where did the last 6 months go? Let me tell you: January saw Her turn 30. We threw Her one hell of a 30th birthday party…

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What a year 2018 was. Although I mostly failed to keep this blog up over the years, the one tradition I always managed to maintain was the annual new years post. And this new blog calls for a new level of detail into my yearly updates. So here it goes.For all the amazing memories that my phone camera roll tells me I had, 2018 felt to me like a blur in the rush that is trying to stay afloat in life right now. It’s safe to say that however bad 2017 was, 2018 was worse. But although I know it was worse, it doesn’t feel worse. I think that’s because 2017 had SO much bad but mixed with SO much good. 2018 had much less bad, but didn’t have nearly as much good to tip the scales back. All that said though, I still consider 2018 a better year than 2017 overall.Perhaps part of my reason for my optimistic outlook is because Her and I are good again. I know that seems crazy given the post I wrote only a week ago, but it’s hard to describe. I talked to her night-before-last about everything… We had a real, in-depth true conversation about where we’re at, our lives, the situation, and where we need to go… and the outcome was so much better than I could have anticipated…

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Over the years, Christmas has become less and less of a thing for us. Not because we don’t like it, but rather the strain of busy lives and getting started in our careers was such that we had less and less time to prepare for it, and thus it came up faster and went by faster each year. This year was no exception. What with her being in the medical field and having to work every other Christmas as it is, seeing family over the holidays hasn’t been a thing in several years.

This Christmas was different, though. I was hit with the perfect storm of busy work weeks while trying to fix our driveway (a several week project that is only half done), while also trying to spend every waking free second saving my Tumblr likes, posts, and other blogs that were inevitably erased from history on the 17th. Because of that, I found myself run down, sick, and waaaaaay behind when I finally went on holiday from work last Friday evening. Stack on top of that the fact that it took up until Christmas Eve just to get myself back to a point physically where I could actually clean the house and get ready to enjoy the holiday, it’s safe to assume we didn’t have much of a Christmas this year.

But that isn’t the worst of it. If it was just another busy Christmas flown by, I’d be able to reconcile that with the many more that we have to come. But this year, this year was without a doubt the saddest Christmas I’ve ever had. After we got the cleaning done yesterday, we had a few shots and smoked a bit and did a few whippets, and after some amazing sex, I chose to broach the subject of an issue I’d come upon regarding her and the guy she’s been fucking. It wasn’t probably the best time to bring it up, but it had been bothering me so immensely that I needed to talk about it with her before she left for another three days. I also somewhat…

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You thought I’d let the 17th come and not post anything didn’t you? Nope.

Maybe you thought I was too busy, or that I’d forgotten about this blog entirely. Neither of those are the case.

Before I get too deep into this post, I want to answer the question that everyone seems to be wondering: Where next?

For me, that answer is two-fold. It seems like the majority of the users I follow have chosen bdsmlr, and for the porn-side of my Tumblr use, I’ll likely go there as well. But for the blogging side, I don’t think my blog is a good fit for bdsmlr. So, I have chosen to pull my blog out separately.

Since I’m in I.T. I have the fortunate skill of being able to create and manipulate excellent websites. So, I have pulled my blog out to justherguy.com and re-designed it and re-vamped it in the process.

I have spent every day since the announcement building this site, and copying all my posts over. I haven’t even come close to getting all the text posts moved, but enough content is there that I’m okay with posting about it here. The site is a work-in-progress, so some things may be missing, but it is functional overall.

I should mention that this new site won’t feature the images or videos that I posted on Tumblr. A stand-alone blog isn’t really setup for that honestly… but it will have much more in-depth blog posts, and I’ll be getting back into blogging regularly. It’ll transition from mostly images with a side of life updates, to life updates with detail and images to accompany them.

I’ve set it up so that you can either subscribe via email to get email notifications, or you can click “Allow” in your browser to get notifications when new posts are released. I won’t be doing a ton, although I will be doing more than the once a year I’ve been doing lately. My guess would be 1-2 a month max, possible as little as ever few months.

I realize there’s probably nobody left on Tumblr that still is interested in following my blog since I’ve been relatively inactive for the past 4 years, and so the blog will likely just be for me. But as anyone that has followed me from the beginning remembers, that’s all it ever was to begin with. I had the privilege of somehow catching the attention of 125,533 people over the years, and for that I am humbled and grateful… but I started this blog for me and Her, and that has and always will be the primary focus. So if pulling it out to my own website means I lose the 125,000 views, I’m okay with it. I’m posting this here in case someone that used to follow Our story checks back to my URL and finds the new location.

I need to take a moment to thank every follower that may still read this someday. – Tumblr was an avenue for me to share my love for Her, to Her as a wedding gift. I never anticipated getting any followers, let alone 125,000… and although that did change my blogging habits some, it also brought a sense of community and support I never could have expected. This blog was such a huge part of my life for so long, and the support we received up to and around our wedding was incredible. So thank you. If you should so choose to check in on us via the new justherguy.com website, we’d love to hear from you there.

So back to my tangent about Tumblr. – While I am the busiest I’ve ever been in my life, I haven’t not-used Tumblr for even a single day in the past 8 years. The reality is that I’ve been too busy to sit down and blog, but Tumblr has many uses… Tumblr is one of the most unique communities out there. I watched it grow from 2009 on, and it grew into a different beast every year. There’s nothing else like it, and that is the primary reason that I am so sad to see it die. – Now that’s not to say that I don’t think that something else will rise up in its’ place, as it appears bdsmlr already is starting to… but Tumblr is/was in its’ own way a part of history. It rose with the internet, and much like Reddit did in their own way, Tumblr became a subsection of the internet. It was something truly incredible.

However, I would be remiss if I said I didn’t see this day coming. I called this in May of 2013 when Yahoo purchased Tumblr. – In all honesty I thought it would happen before now… but nonetheless it did happen. And while I am sad about that, I am accepting of it at the same time. – Everything has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Tumblr’s beginning was incredible, the middle was exhilarating, and the end is bitter-sweet. I say bitter-sweet because we all saw this end coming.

For the past year or 18 months, Tumblr has been on a deactivating spree that was surely the signs of the beginning of the end. It was so bad in the past 6 months that it was almost sucking the life out of Tumblr, when half the blogs you went to discover from a reblog were deactivated. It was frustrating, and although this move may have been a shock to some, it surely couldn’t have been totally unexpected for those of us that have been following the community closely for a while.

The interim will be rough, between Tumblr’s death tomorrow and whatever takes its’ place, but I am confident that a community like this cannot be killed. We will be back… and like every new re-birth, we’ll be different but possibly even better than before in new ways.

With all of that said, I’m getting back into writing because my life has changed so much over the past couple years that I need this escape. If you choose to subscribe to the website, you’ll get updates on where we’re at, and the long road that got us here that I virtually all-but-skipped posting about for the past few years… and hopefully, you’ll follow us back to where we were in 2011. That’s the goal anyway.

I’m not going to get into my life updates right now… because I have time for that in the next couple weeks given that we’re at the end of the year. This post is about waving goodbye to an era that helped define a TYPE of community for the internet, unlike any other. So with that, I thank you all, and I wish everyone that doesn’t subscribe to my blog the best. It’s been fun traveling this journey together.

-JustHerGuy

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